Valentines Day. Who says that this day should be restricted only to romantic love? No other day can conjure such powerful imagery of chocolate, flowers, romance and love. It is a commercially driven day that provokes strongly divided reactions to the bewildering display of hearts, and starry-eyed romance. For those in stable, loving relationships, the day offers a wonderful opportunity to express or reaffirm their love. For those who are recently bereaved, divorced, or single, this is a day that can trigger feelings of overwhelming loneliness and grief.
While Valentine’s Day is merely an arbitrary day that we use as a light hearted way to express our feelings to our partners, it is also true that this day sustains the myth that all couples are happy. With divorce rates where they are in North America, it is apparent that not all couples are “loving”. Without intending to bash this “feel-good” day, after all, we can all benefit from an expression of love, it seems that Valentines Day may be more widely accepted if it was truly a day for love. Not just romantic love between couples, but love in all of its forms.
It’s not about that why we express our feelings on a particular day. We can express our feelings in any moment but that particular day gives us a positivity in our mind that we should express our feeling on this day. In this world everyone wants to be feel special so it’s not wrong to give a special feeling on this special day to your loved ones. We can create some memorable moments on this occasion for our loved ones rather for our partner, for our friends who loves us a lot, for any one who give u a special feel in any phase or our life.
Best idea to celebrate this day & to make memorable is to reunion those moments which we spent with our love & to recollect that precious moments which can bring a smile on your face when you think about those moments.
Many people who find themselves alone on this day, struggle with past hurts, grief, and feelings of inadequacy. While they are bombarded with images of happy couples, it is important that they remember that their identity is not defined by their relationship status. A person’s worth comes from who they are, not who they are with. While most would agree that this is true, it doesn’t dull the inevitable feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy that arise when besieged by the ubiquitous love heart at every turn.
What about a perspective change? What if we were to adopt the idea that Valentines Day is not just for couples, but for everybody? While your friends might be buying flowers for their partners, consider the people in your world that you love, and that love you back. Something special for your Mom, a telephone call to your Dad. Perhaps your daughter would appreciate flowers as much as any lover would. Maybe spending the evening with your son watching a hockey game would be one way to express your particular brand of love. Random acts of kindness can bring a surprisingly wonderful sense of well-being.
For those who struggle with this day, it might be helpful to spend time with friends or family – people with whom you have already established positive, loving relationships. It could be a time to focus on what you have, rather than on what you feel you’re missing. Create new traditions. Invite your single friends over for dinner, take cookies to your neighbor who is always there for you, eat chocolate!
Valentines Day offers us a unique opportunity to undertake a new perspective on how we choose to celebrate love. The traditional approach with flowers, cards, and romance works beautifully for some. For others, a display of love towards children, parents, or friends can be equally rewarding. But in the midst of all the various means of displaying love to others, let us not forget the benefits of looking after our own needs. This Valentine’s Day, offer yourself the same thing you give to all of the loved ones in your life, and make the effort to show yourself a little love!
Written By: Ambalika Sharma